Guys with Ties and Girls with Pearls

Guys with Ties and Girls with Pearls

October Gazette

At Shady Spring Elementary School

Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas once said, “Good manners will open doors that the best of education will not.”  Mrs. Carver, School Counselor, and the faculty and staff at Shady Spring Elementary believe the same.  That is why the Guys with Ties and Girls with Pearls program was created. The program is designed to instill these values and life-skills in Shady Spring Elementary 4th and 5th grade students.  Students who participate attend monthly after-school meetings. At the after school meetings, students will get ready for their future careers by learning good manners, practicing civility, and learning about topics such as basic etiquette, table manners, effective communication, how to give a speech, and etiquette rules from cultures around the world (presented by parents).They also have fun and have positive interactions with other children.  Students are required to attend 6 of the 8 meetings and are asked to dress up on monthly meeting days. The staff volunteers are working to instill personal responsibility in all of our students, and attendance is a form of responsibility. Parents are asked to remind their students that they’ve made a commitment.  Girls wear their own pearls, or a string of pearls provided by Mrs. Carver.   Boys wear ties, and are given the opportunity to borrow one from the vast selection in Principal Ken Dunaway’s office.  Boys learn to tie a tie, and have plenty of opportunity to practice

This is the third year for this very successful program which currently has 100 fourth and fifth grade students participating.  Fifth grade students who are in the program for a second year are known as “Ladies and Gents.”

The Guys with Ties and Girls with Pearls program ends in May, with the End-of-Year Tea, where students are permitted to invite an adult who is special to them to join them for an elegant tea party.  The gym is transformed using large tables, cloth table clothes, and china dishes and tea cups. This gives them a chance to show off their new etiquette skills, and put their manners to practice. 

Mrs. Carver is currently searching for businesses to sponsor Guys with Ties and Girls with Pearls this year.  Businesses who would like to contribute in-kind or monetary donations may contact Mrs. Carver at or 410-887-0509.

Not to leave out younger students, all students are invited to participate in Dress for Success Thursdays.  At SSES we feel that when the children come to school dressed for success, they tend to make better behavior choices, and present themselves in a positive manner to others.